I know that we speak about topics that can be extremely sensitive for some of our members here & that can get emotions running high. That being the case, we can sometimes misinterpret something that another member has posted, especially if the topic starts to get heated. Therefore I wanted to let all of you know that Miriam & myself are here for all of you if that happens.
If you ever feel as though another member has personally attacked you immediately send one (or both) of us a PM about the matter. Do not reply to the other member as your emotions will likely be running very high causing your own post to be nothing more than a personal attack against them. This will only result in yourself being disciplined, which is not what anyone wants.
So please, if you feel that you have been attacked let us know & we will work with you & the other member through whatever is going on. If you have been personally attacked the offending member will be dealt with accordingly. If, on the other hand, something that was posted has been taken out of context we will help to clear up the misunderstanding.
Post by kapitanprien on Mar 7, 2011 15:09:08 GMT -5
After having some bad experiences with so-called 'spiritual forums/boards' I am glad that things are handled much better here and that the members here are wonderful.
What happens to me is that when I open up about something, I am typically attacked - this has happened twice recently and so have chosen to leave the other two places (in addition with a third which I left) and make this my new 'address'.
To give an example - one of the attacks came after I had stated that I had a dream the night before which was a memory of something of happening in my U-Boat and had told them about the shock my body's psyche is going through. I stated that I am going through something 'extreme' - and the comment that I got was that of: "That sounds like something a 'diva' would say."
The most recent one involves having mentioned about using the Gymea essence because I have an 'intense' personality and have always felt like I was ahead of my peers - which is true looking at my history - my service in the Handelsmarine and then when I joined the Navy. Someone stated "OH DEAR!!" and another member's response to this was "As you say " I found this rather offensive - but with such short responses who knows if they meant it that way.
Therefore - I am glad that such a notice has been made about 'attacks'.
Post by kapitanprien on Mar 7, 2011 18:32:13 GMT -5
Ouch. I seem to be the target of peoples' jealousy. I'm thankful that not all of them are like that - that I've met 'genuine' people. I guess what bothers me the most is that - I don't need these sorts of attacks when I am discussing the healing of my body (from abuse trauma)...it doesn't help in the least - but they (the ones that leave the rude comments) don't see it that way.
Last Edit: Mar 7, 2011 18:33:22 GMT -5 by kapitanprien
I feel the same way about that group for that exact reason and there are a few on there who I cannot stomach either.. but I must ask of you to not use names. Even if they are not members on here, they can still find things said like this through search engines and I don't want to see anyone here get into trouble. Thanks.
Post by kapitanprien on Mar 9, 2011 10:41:31 GMT -5
I agree with MsMir on name usage - that's why I don't use names and for me it is more about the person's behavior than the person themselves. Also, I don't believe in naming the sites either because I don't want to 'badmouth' a site based on a few people of questionable character.
Issues like those that have been mentioned are precisely why I put this thread here. I have run enough sites to know just what type of drama can come up, especially once a site has more & varied members from various backgrounds. I want all of our members as comfortable as can be possible given the subject matters that we discuss.
And thank you McCoy for editing the person's name out of your post. I have to agree that naming specific people is not beneficial for anyone or the forum as a whole.
I just want to remind everyone that, while I cannot make the forum absolutely comfortable for every single person (as everyone is different), this place is meant to be as comfortable as possible for many people to share with each other.
So if there is anyone or anything about the forum that is making you uncomfortable please let either myself or Msmir know of it (via PM or email if it is about another member) so we can see what can be done about it.
Do not randomly post across the forums about your discomfort however as that leaves the place with a "victim tone" which is not welcoming to others in & of itself. And (if it is done enough or in certain ways) can also be seen as a way for you to "attack" the other person. Which is what we do not want. No "martial law" on the forums. Simply either PM or email Msmir or myself, or make a post about your concerns in the Site Issues & Suggestions thread.
Last Edit: Mar 26, 2011 12:14:30 GMT -5 by Laurasia