Post by Laurasia on Jul 30, 2013 12:59:06 GMT -5
Hi guys.
I don't know why, but common courtesy seems to be a dying trait in our "modern age". A prime example of this happened to me just the other day at work with a new employee. Bear in mind that this was only the second day that she & I had ever worked together.
She & two other employees (who are just as new as she is) were coming out of a room just as I was entering it & she spotted my necklaces. (My pentacle, valksnut, & Thor's hammer.) Her eyes lit up & she reached out & grabbed my pentacle to see it better as they all gathered around me in a gaggle. (I felt like I was on a choke collar or something.) Then she stammers out, all while still holding the pentacle -& me- really closely to her face, "Oh that's so pretty! That means that, that...Wiccan thing, right?"
I wanted to snarl out "'Wiccan thing'? It's not a 'thing', it's a religion you f*ck*ng moron. Would you grab one of the bosses by their crucifixes & hold them there saying 'Oh this means that Christian thing, right'? And, by the way, no I am not a Wiccan - I'm a witch. Not all witches are Wiccan, & not all Wiccans are witches d*mb*ss."
It was only my second day of working with her though, so I didn't want to seem overly b*tchy (and, deep down, I do realize that she obviously just has no idea of what she's talking about.....it's still EXTREMELY irritating to be approached like that though). So I just said yes. That immediately set her off on a very animated story about how she has read a little bit about that 'Wicca stuff'. And how, when her mother was very sick in the hospital, she had read to light a candle & place it in a circle of salt with her mother's picture with it. She did so & just 2 days later her mother was home from the hospital. I just smiled & said, "See?" I wanted to say "Good for you. You did a spell, moron. Thankfully you didn't make things worse, since you clearly had no understanding of how or why magic really works & you were just reading it out of the book."
As you can tell, I'm sure, personal space is a big thing to me. Obviously I don't mind being asked about my necklaces, Wicca (which, though I'm not Wiccan myself, I fully understand that most "laymen" only equate my pentacle to that particular religious path), my religion, etc. (If I did I wouldn't openly wear my jewelry.) But there is a proper way to ask about these types of things. And it is not to grab the necklace of the person like a leash & then refer to the path as a "thing" or "stuff".
Sincerely,
Laurasia
I don't know why, but common courtesy seems to be a dying trait in our "modern age". A prime example of this happened to me just the other day at work with a new employee. Bear in mind that this was only the second day that she & I had ever worked together.
She & two other employees (who are just as new as she is) were coming out of a room just as I was entering it & she spotted my necklaces. (My pentacle, valksnut, & Thor's hammer.) Her eyes lit up & she reached out & grabbed my pentacle to see it better as they all gathered around me in a gaggle. (I felt like I was on a choke collar or something.) Then she stammers out, all while still holding the pentacle -& me- really closely to her face, "Oh that's so pretty! That means that, that...Wiccan thing, right?"
I wanted to snarl out "'Wiccan thing'? It's not a 'thing', it's a religion you f*ck*ng moron. Would you grab one of the bosses by their crucifixes & hold them there saying 'Oh this means that Christian thing, right'? And, by the way, no I am not a Wiccan - I'm a witch. Not all witches are Wiccan, & not all Wiccans are witches d*mb*ss."
It was only my second day of working with her though, so I didn't want to seem overly b*tchy (and, deep down, I do realize that she obviously just has no idea of what she's talking about.....it's still EXTREMELY irritating to be approached like that though). So I just said yes. That immediately set her off on a very animated story about how she has read a little bit about that 'Wicca stuff'. And how, when her mother was very sick in the hospital, she had read to light a candle & place it in a circle of salt with her mother's picture with it. She did so & just 2 days later her mother was home from the hospital. I just smiled & said, "See?" I wanted to say "Good for you. You did a spell, moron. Thankfully you didn't make things worse, since you clearly had no understanding of how or why magic really works & you were just reading it out of the book."
As you can tell, I'm sure, personal space is a big thing to me. Obviously I don't mind being asked about my necklaces, Wicca (which, though I'm not Wiccan myself, I fully understand that most "laymen" only equate my pentacle to that particular religious path), my religion, etc. (If I did I wouldn't openly wear my jewelry.) But there is a proper way to ask about these types of things. And it is not to grab the necklace of the person like a leash & then refer to the path as a "thing" or "stuff".
Sincerely,
Laurasia
